I go out into the world with Veronica, dressing how we want to dress and looking how we want to look, and I feel two things: scared and pissed off. People point at Veronica. They call her a man, they accuse her of "taking their women and children," they gawk at her through the windows of a frozen yogurt store, they glare at her on planes, they loudly whisper with their friends, they physically turn their wife toward her to stare as she walks by, and that is just within the last 30 days, folks.
I am scared because random acts of violence toward the "other" is a real and dangerous thing. Close friends have been the victims of violent hate crimes that happened in seemingly "safe" places. How senseless is it to hurt someone because of the way they look? Isn't looking away a safer option? Isn't trying to wrestle with your own discomfort and overcome it an even better option than that?
Sure she shrugs it off, rises above and knows the importance of authenticity, so she shows up every day. Whether it's the stage or the grocery store, she SHOWS UP with that killer 90's buzz and that ironed button-down and those sick Spex Wax glasses and that skinny neck tie and those shiny loafers. Make no mistake, she won't let you kill her style.
But I am pissed because you are being rude and you are hurting her effing feelings. To all those who stare and say offensive things like "that's gay " or "that's retarded" or "fucking fag" - pick up your jaw, dip your toe in 2014, study this list, and understand that there are SO MANY people in the world who look different than your version of normal. Understand that your version of normal is YOUR version and therefore is not the measure of much in this world we all share. Understand that these people are working hard to make positive changes in this world we all share. Understand that if I catch you staring or pointing or yelling at my friend like that again, I will get in your face and you will NOT have the pleasure of meeting my dimples.
Congrats to Veronica and all the other wonderful Q's on this list! Bask in your stylish glory!